Unveiling the Magic Behind Therapy
Exploring the transformative process that unfolds within the therapeutic space.
“Therapy is the alchemy of transforming pain into understanding, wounds into wisdom, and struggles into strength.”
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Embarking on the journey of therapy is like setting sail into the uncharted waters of self-discovery.
We like to say that therapy is a journey within. But what does that mean? What does that look like? Feel like? Are you therapy curious? Maybe you hear friends talking about their therapeutic experience (and maybe their reports are mixed!). Maybe your emotions have hijacked you one too many times and you are seeking relief.
When we are therapy - curious a lot of questions can come up. What happens in therapy? Does it really work? Can’t I just talk to my friends about my problems? Isn’t it expensive? We hear you and we’ve got you!!
We’ll do our best to answer some common questions that pop up when considering this step and try to demystify what therapy is (and isn’t).
Ready to set sail? Read on as we paint a picture for you of what happens when you come for therapy at Cherry Tree Counselling.*
*Because each therapist and clinic is unique, we will stay in our lane and speak to our experience here.
Q: What can I expect in the first session?
Our first session is an introduction and we’ll ease you in.
Your therapist will discuss the therapy process, informed consent and confidentiality, and gather information about your background, current challenges, and goals. It’s a chance for you to ask questions and gauge if you feel comfortable with the therapist’s approach. We won’t be pushing or challenging you in this session! It’s purpose is to help you feel comfortable, answer any questions and gather some basic information at a surface level.
Here’s what you can generally expect:
INTRODUCTION AND WELCOME: The therapist will warmly welcome you to the session, creating a comfortable and non-judgemental space. We will introduce ourselves and talk about our approach to therapy, and the general structure of the session.
INFORMED CONSENT AND CONFIDENTIALITY: We will discuss the essential aspects of informed consent and confidentiality because you need and deserve to know your rights as a client. This includes explaining the therapeutic process, the limits of confidentiality, and any legal or ethical considerations so that you have a clear understanding of what to expect.
BACKGROUND INFORMATION: We will invite you to share a little of your story and where you’ve been before now. You can talk about your family, personal history, relationships, and relevant life events if you want to - totally optional at your own pace. This helps the therapist gain a comprehensive understanding of your context and informs the therapeutic approach.
CURRENT CHALLENGES AND GOALS: We’ll ask you where you are at today. In addition to sharing your current challenges, struggles, or reasons for seeking therapy, the therapist will explore your goals and what you hope to gain or experience from therapy.
THERAPEUTIC APPROACH: We will explain our therapeutic approach, which could include the theoretical framework they use. They may discuss their style, techniques they often employ, and how they tailor their approach to meet individual client needs. We may use metaphor to describe how therapy is about walking together down a path during a specific time in your life.
CHECK-UP FOR FIT: We don’t just chuck you in after your consultation and hope for the best. We will follow up with you as a team - our Client Care Coordinator Julie reaches out after each initial session to ensure you are receiving exceptional care and have what you need. At Cherry Tree, we promise to hold your hand every step of the way on this new path.
Our first session is a two-way process. It’s an opportunity for you to assess whether you feel comfortable and understood by your therapist. Likewise, the therapist is evaluating whether they have the expertise to support you effectively. If you decide to continue, subsequent sessions will delve deeper into specific issues and therapeutic interventions.
At Cherry Tree, we place great importance on transparency. If we don’t feel we are the right fit for your needs, we promise to tell you.
Q: How long will therapy take?
The duration of therapy is highly individual and yet also collaborative.
Short-term therapy might focus on specific issues and last a few weeks to months, while long-term therapy could continue for several months or years. It depends on factors like the complexity of issues, personal goals, and progress. You and your therapist will co-create your treatment plan and discuss duration in relation to your goals, together.
Q: How frequently should I attend sessions?
How often you meet with your therapist is a collaborative decision that considers your needs and preferences.
Initially, weekly or bi-weekly sessions are recommended to establish rapport and momentum. As progress is made, sessions may become monthly and then spaced further apart to include bi-annual wellness check-ins or your own unique timeline.
Q: Is therapy confidential?
Yes, therapy is confidential but there are rare exceptions and limitations.
Therapists adhere to strict ethical and legal standards to keep your information private. Exceptions to confidentiality may occur if there’s a risk of harm to yourself or others, or if required by law. Learn more about this crucial aspect of therapy here!
“Therapy is the art of conjuring courage, resilience, and self-love, turning the ordinary moments of life into extraordinary breakthroughs.”
Q: How much will therapy cost?
Therapy costs vary widely. We offer flexible pricing models.
Factors include the therapist’s location, credentials, and type of therapy (such as individual sessions versus couples or family sessions). Many therapists offer sliding scales or can be covered by insurance plans. Discussing fees and payment options during the initial consultation can ensure transparency and avoid disappointment.
Q: How do I know if therapy is working?
There are many signs and cues to know that you’re making progress towards your therapeutic goals!
FEELING UNDERSTOOD: A fundamental aspect of therapy is feeling seen and understood by your therapist. If you sense that your therapist grasps your experiences, emotions, and challenges, it’s a positive sign. We call this a ‘felt sense’ in therapy speak. :)
INSIGHTS AND AWARENESS: Therapy often involves gaining insights into your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. If you find yourself developing a deeper understanding of the root causes of your concerns and gaining awareness of patterns, therapy is likely contributing to your personal growth.
POSITIVE CHANGES: Positive shifts in your thoughts, feelings, or behaviours are key indicators of progress. This could manifest as improved coping strategies, enhanced emotional regulation, or healthier interpersonal relationships.
ACHIEVING YOUR GOALS/INTENTIONS: If you set specific goals in therapy, achieving or making progress toward them is a clear sign of effectiveness. Whether it’s managing anxiety, improving communication, or enhancing self-esteem, tangible changes indicate that therapy is addressing your concerns.
INCREASED SELF-REFLECTION: Therapy often encourages self-reflection. If you find yourself engaging in introspection outside of therapy sessions, contemplating your experiences, and applying what you’ve learned, it suggests that therapy is fostering a deeper understanding of yourself.
OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH THERAPIST: Regular and open communication with your therapist is crucial. If you feel comfortable discussing your progress, expressing concerns, and collaborating on adjustments to your treatment plan. It indicates a healthy therapeutic relationship.
ENHANCED EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING: Ultimately, the goal of therapy is to enhance your overall well-being. If you experience improvements to your emotional state, a greater sense of fulfillment, and an increased ability to enjoy life, therapy is likely playing a positive role in your mental health.
Let’s be super honest - therapy is likely going to feel uncomfortable at times because this is how transformation happens. We know this and we will gently guide you to your edge in a safe, skilled and informed way.
It’s important to remember that progress in therapy is often gradual, and setbacks are a normal part of the process. Regular check-ins with your therapist to discuss your experiences and reassess your goals contribute to the ongoing effectiveness of therapy.
Cherry Tree Counselling’s in-person office located at 56 Governors Rd, Dundas, ON.
Q: Can I bring up anything in therapy?
Therapy is a sacred and safe space for you to unmask! Permission to show up as human first!
You don’t have to show up all put together or as a highly functioning human here. Come as you are on that day. Therapy is a non-judgemental space for discussing any topic that concerns you. Whether it’s personal relationships, past traumas, or future aspirations, we are here to support you.
Q: What if I don’t feel comfortable or don’t connect with my therapist?
Therapeutic fit is essential and in fact the number one agent of change across all therapeutic models. It’s helpful to openly communicate your feedback to your therapist but if you don’t feel comfortable with that, we’ve got you.
Building trust is crucial, and if the connection isn’t there, your therapist can help explore whether adjustments can be made or if finding a different therapist is a better option. At Cherry Tree, we invite you to also reach back to our Client Care Coordinator, Julie, if you’re not feeling the fit. We will help you navigate what to do next.
Q: How do I handle difficult emotions that may arise during therapy?
In therapy, challenging emotions may surface. We make space.
Consider these uncomfortable or new emotions as stepping stones to self-discovery. Emotions are messengers, and exploring them with your therapist can lead to profound insights and growth. Together, you and your therapist will work on practical strategies to navigate these emotions, transforming them into powerful catalysts for positive change. Remember, the therapeutic journey is a collaborative process, and facing these emotions head-on is a courageous step toward healing and self-awareness. This is how we stretch ourselves and grow - from our edges.
Q: Do I have to talk about certain topics?
No topic is mandatory in therapy. We don’t do tough love here.
You have total control over what you share, and your therapist will respect your boundaries. If there are sensitive areas you’re not ready to explore, you can discuss them with your therapist, who will match a pace that feels right for you.
Q: Will you challenge me?
Yes - strategically and with your consent. Since all humans have blindspots, therapy must be equal parts support and challenge. If we only validate you, you might not grow.
How do we see what we can’t see? When we are driving we have special mirrors for this. In therapy we have mirrors too - we call them clinical skills! One of these is probing questions. Some clients prefer a ‘straight goods’ approach - give it to me straight up doc! We can do that. Other clients prefer to digest things one nibble at a time. Rest assured we have worked with thousands of clients who all have unique personalities. We have a deep understanding of how to create a customized approach and experience that will match your needs.
As we walk down this road together, we will encounter many pathways to explore. Gentle invitations will be offered to you… …do you want to go look at this? Let’s take a peek over here, I see something important. You may say… …let’s do it! You may say… …not today, thanks. You may say… …yes, but I’m scared to go there because I don’t know what it is or how it will feel. Please hold my hand. And we will. We get it. And we’ve got you.
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SOURCES:
Psychology Today Therapy and Confidentiality
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